Angie’s List of What Works

Posted on September 1, 2011

Recently I put out a call for suggestions from those who have overcome their struggles with emotional and cognitvie distress. A Facebook friend, Angie Lindenou responded with a great compiliation of the tips and tools that she has used along the way. Today I wanted to share this list with you and point out that the first one on the list is refusing to give up.

Recovery is not only possible – but probable and when we believe we are capeable of learning to create the life we want – we are empwered to do just that.

When those we seek support from those believe we are not capable or reinforces that this state of being is permanent aka “for life” hope becomes defunct and hopelessness takes over.

We empower others by first believing in them.

Now onto Angie’s List….

What helped me were:

  • My stubbornness and refusal to quit
  • My conviction that I deserve better and having the memory of better
  • Those moments of ‘unconditional love’
  • My dogs
  • Writing and ‘messing’ with language, e.g. using some piece as starting point for creating a new story out of it
  • Complementary stuff from Reiki to personal growth workshops
  • Exploring new ideas and approaches
  • Experiencing community with peers in self-help and support groups
  • Giving somebody else valid support – which often is simply ‘being there’
  • Random acts of kindness, given and received
  • Doing things with others and not alone
  • Singing, dancing, movement, exercise, art, beauty, touch, the feeling of togetherness
  • Quite literally: a Lift at Ardnacrusha Powerstation through the lock (I hitched a lift on a sailing boat), come 30 meters up. A heavenly lift!
  • A really good concert, e.g. with Carl Jenkins and huge choir ‘The Armed Man’
  • Catching a child’s eye and connecting, both of us breaking into a smile
  • Giving somebody a good surprise / present
  • Cooking something special or baking a cake
  • Sharing food
  • Anything creative!
  • Discovering that my brain was still employable to do good work
  • And Laughter Yoga, of course.
Whether your role is one of a seeker of support/services, a family member or are one who chooses to provide such services the gift that keeps on giving is that of hope and acceptance, nuturing the belief that a “best life” is defined by the one living it.
“The greatest goodness you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but reveal to him his own.” ~Disraeli